Friday, June 29, 2012

Now I can see it's about my Mom and not so much about Me...

This morning I had a serious case of the older you get, the more you realize.   And the first thing that came to mind was my Mom.  I've been wanting to write a post about her because she always bugs me about what I mean when I refer to her as the Mom in this blog.

So what do I mean by this?  A ton of things.  All good things.  As I sit here my brains are spewing out so many thoughts I want to share with you that I'm having a hard time deciding where I should start. 

I'll apologize in advance if this post has about 15 introductions before I get to my point and this post is out of order, but I want to set ya'll straight...

My mom Paula, is a vital part of Country Crafters and Crafting at the Round Table.  There probably isn't a day that goes by where I don't think of her or talk to her, or both.  We've had our ups and downs.  I've been through the silly teenage stage where moms are so uncool.  I moved out when I was 19 and did my own thing for a while, and now live about 5 miles away from her.  Most importantly, I realize more and more just how much she has influenced my life and just how much I am like her.  I guess the only way I'm going to sort this all out is if I start with the early days.

Before I was born my mom took a risk to take a test to operate heavy equipment (bulldozers, cranes, name it, she ran it).  Actually, during that time my mother was pregnant with me.  This was  a time when women in this line of business were especially unwelcome.  She has told me she wore baggy clothes so as not to show her pregnancy to avoid additional opinions and judgements cast in her direction.  As I grew old enough to understand,  she would tell me the times she was fired from a job her first day because they didn't want a woman on the job site, or would play mean tricks to get her to make mistakes, or would purposely set her up for disaster.  That didn't phase her.  She was determined to succeed.  My mom had some serious will power and woman power.  There were an endless number of times my mom preached to me that we girls have woman power.  My mom is no women's activist, though. She HAD to have woman power in her line of work.  Later on, I met numerous men my mother worked with over the years.  She was highly regarded and respected among her co-workers in the heavy equipment operating business.  While I may not have realized that at a younger age, I'm and awed and amazed today at what my mother has accomplished. 

From day one, my mom, like many other moms out there, has supported her child's hobbies.  Roller skating was mine.  I started skating when I was three, my first competition when I was five, and was competing in national competitions by the time I was nine.  That included traveling, making outfits, buying skatings, practicing, bringing toys during downtimes, doing my hair at 3:00 am for competitions, make up, contributing to skate clubs, and countless hours of fussing over everything and anything else that had involved my hobby.  I know it was exhausting and a ton of work, but the thing I remember the most is that my mom was there.

Growing up my mother wasn't strict.  She made it clear to me at a very young age that you get things you want by earning them.  She also taught me that anything worth having never comes easy.  By doing so, I also learned discipline and respect, and I will continue to uphold the lessons she has taught me.  To this day I have to give her credit for my confidence to pursue anything I desire.

Now that I'm grown and have a life of my own, I can't imagine what it would be like if she wasn't a part of it.  I feel awkward if a couple days go by and I haven't talked to her.  I still love to go visit.  At her place, the coffee pot is always on, and she is willing to lend an ear or a shoulder if need be.  Actually, it's not just me that comes over to visit.  It can start out with one person visiting, then the next thing you know there are four neighbors and five family members coming out to visit Paula.  We joke and call it grand central station, but it's always a good time.

I could go on and on about how important my mom is to so many people.  When it comes to needing help, she's there unconditionally.  And not just for me; for everyone.  I'm so blessed to have a mom like the mom, and just in case you don't have what I have, don't worry.  My mom will be your mom, too. (Seriously, just ask her!)

What I really want to say, though, is this:

You know how people ask children what they want to be when they grow up?  If I knew what I know now as a child, I'd have to say that I'd want to grow up to be my mom...

...the Mom

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